MAN STARVES TO DEATH, WOMAN DROWNS TRYING TO ESCAPE SHACKLES OF SLAVERY.
This is pretty different from my usual spiel, because it’s a topic I don’t have many facts about. Not that there aren’t facts, just that I’m no expert in the history and culture of my race despite laying claims to it. But Mr. Multilingual shared this picture with me and then suggested I share my response with you all. 
It was posted on Facebook with the caption:
BET SOME ANGRY CHIC WILL TAKE OFFENSE TO THIS AND ATTACK! If she would free him he could save her, all she has to do is reach with the other hand, both of their lives depend on her but she is reaching for his hand instead of handing him the key to break his bondage.
NOW HEAR THIS!!!No prison, no law, no racism, no injustice, no discrimination, no physical torture hurts or does more damage to us than than the tongue, attitude and mindset of our women. We are beat down emotionally and mentally more than any other race. Asian, Latin, Anglo, Indian, etc…None of those races handle their men like our women handle us and in most cases those men treat their women worse than we treat ours.
Our women have become louder, more aggressive, disrespectful and more violent to the point our young boys desire to be like mommy. Present, daddy is chained by what “mommy” will LET him do while chained by her titles for him, anger, resentment, unwillingness to forgive, his past/her current pain…she has external reinforcement…child support, law enforcement, pressure to provide beyond his means…so he remains, stagnate/static/stoic to the point he puts stock in the stereotype that he is nothing, so he does nothing.
This was my reply:
This is a bad generalization. I think black women have fought a lot of battles to get where we are and that shouldn’t be belittled. I also think both sexes have a lot of left over psychological scars from slavery/post-colonialism. It’s not an excuse but it’s centuries of stuff to overcome, which isn’t helped by present day conditions that are less than ideal, meaning there are very little “good men” to teach women what standards to have and how to treat men.
But buying into the stereotype of the lazy/absent black father is a really crappy excuse. If you’re a decent guy, be a decent guy. Don’t live down to expectations. That’s just stupid.
What are these so-called post-colonial psychological scars?
Men were emasculated (from just the very fact of being slaves), separated from their families, stripped of any power in the household because they were not part of the household.
Women ended up seeing men as sperm donors, were used to them being absent fathers who were sometimes harsh and violent and certainly not involved in childcare or family affairs. Additionally the “marrying up” phenomenon meant neither gender (but mostly women) within our race thought the other one was good enough.
Bottom line is that black women on a whole have had really shitty experiences with men, both black and white. But this shouldn’t be used as an excuse.
What I see is a woman who has to let go in order to save herself. Save herself first and then save him after. It’s her discovering her strength, not just depending on his. It’s him trusting her to come back for him. It’s love, pure and simple.
You see what you’re looking for.
well read robin 